You are the Leader and Never Ever Forget it!
How long have we been married now? 12 years. And all those early teething troubles are in the past. Now we understand each other totally, we don’t get easily upset when misunderstandings occur. Life is good with my Thai Lady. Most of the time . . .
Then sometimes it wacks you in the back of the head with a stark ‘wake up call’. And so it was last night.
I’ve been working too hard. A lot too hard. 6-7 days a week. It’s hard to make time for anything outside of work, and sometimes those niggling little bits of family adminstration get forgotten.
Like. . . organising Pat’s medical appointments! Oh Shit!
Last night was not much fun, but we are best buddies again this morning.
The lesson I was reminded of was this. And I have touched on this before..
As the husband in a Western / Thai relationship, I am expected to be the ‘leader’ and take care of all the important stuff. Heck, I can’t even remember to schedule my own medical visits these days. But that’s another story.
I forgot an important appointment and only ‘saved my life and marriage’ by getting another one set at very short notice.
Have you have ever read Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus? Great book. But when you are married to a Thai Lady, you need to double the gulf between how men and women think about things and react to situations. Everything is magnified. Sometimes 🙂
So I was in the dog house big time. By forgetting to make her medical appointment, I had clearly demonstrated that I did not love her, did not care about her and the difficulties she faces living in a foreign country that my business was obviously far more important than our relationship…
OK, she could have made the appointment herself right? Wrong. As the leader that is my job. And as we live in my country, a foreign country, I need to help her over come any language and communication difficulties.
A good reminder.